Well it has been months and my clever plan of continued blogging has failed utterly and completely. So bad in fact that it may take several posts to bring it back up to date. This in fact proves that I have an interesting life. Well, maybe. Perhaps dot points would work better. Where to begin.
Passover: The gang aka: Sam, Alan and Andrew come down to the "family home" to meet my amazing relatives and have a suedo Jewish, Christian passover meal. Later discovering that playing cluedo with my brothers is completely unfair and involves flying peacocks.
Easter: A flying Sydney visit with Al and Sam. Krispy Kremes, strange late night bus rides, sydney con and the biggest church I have ever been to. Thankyou Rob for putting us up in your amazing house.
Alan's Birthday: Monopoly at it's cruelest. I'm still stumped as to how Andrew managed to get hotels on Mayfair and Park Lane.
Andrew's Birthday: The worlds biggest serving of spagetti. Yum. Am I the scum?
The Wakeover: Staying up all night watching movies and the wii. Personally quite a feat for someone like me who craves sleep.
Mid Year Conference: I can't begin to put words to this experience. 60 christians on camp for a week. Need I say more. Well actually I do. The soccer games were intense the teachings mindblowing and the company amazing. I feel so much closer to my friends from this experience and have made so many new ones. I'm so glad I went.
That's it for the huge ones. I will elaborate on these things in future blogs. Hopefully this won't take too long and I will keep up to date. I do apologise for the many in jokes.
Lately I have been mulling over the role of women in society. Specifically the role of christian women and God's plan for our lives. Is having a career ok? Or is God's plan that we be housewives. If so what is the point in higher education?
I know staying at home and raising children for many women is an ideal job and I don't disagree with this opinion. I believe that there is a place in society for this and it is a full time job. Not to be seen as anything less than the work of a doctor, lawyer or any other occupation. But do we all have to do this? I'd like to think no. I have always envisioned for my life a good career and respect from my coworkers. I want to have children at some stage but not yet and I have no idea how to balance them with the life I already have. Do you stay at home until your children get to a certain age and what age is that. Is it 8 weeks old like some mum's do or 5 years when they are at school or is it university like one mother suggested to me. Should it be a compulsary age? Is it wrong if a Christian woman chooses not to have kids?
These and other seemingly unanswerable questions run through my head on a daily basis. The only answer I can presently give (apart from this doesn't apply at present so I won't think about it) is that God is bigger than that and he does have a plan. It may not be our plan or easy but we can be confident that what ever the plan is it will be God's will. Maybe I will end up being a house wife. Or maybe children aren't part of God's plan for me at all. Who knows. I'll just take things as they come.
What is your opinion on this?
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Hi there
I am probably the least qualified to give any advice, so here goes.
It's certainly not wrong for a woman to have a career or aspirations towards one. Nor is it wrong not to get married. Maybe your other question is "is it wrong to not have children if you get married?" That's a tough one.
As to balancing a career and children, I think that the preschool years are really important to a child, so I'd suggest to mostly stay at home until then. But that's just my competely inexperienced opinion. I'd suggest talking to mothers, who actually do have the experience.
You're right though - in the end, trust that God will guide you in the right path, whatever that will be.
Gee Michael, I thought you had given birth before...
G'day. There is life on this blog afterall!
My family always does the passover meal at Easter. Always good! It does add another dimension to the Easter story.
I, like Michael am inexperienced. So at this stage I should probably shut up. But no. I want to do a Sam Green impersonation and say that the Bible gives us enormous freedom on the issue. You'll have to get Pryderi to start commenting on your blog, he might be able to do a full length WMV Sam Green talk on it and somehow post it in.
Anyway, I've spent too long procrastinating.
Hi Mim, good to see you are blogging again :-)
Certainly it is my view that women can have a career if that is what God calls them to do, and it is in their heart to do so. To be staying as a parent at home until your children are at university is certainly an extreme in my opinion, but to be there for your kids when they need it is most crucial. Your role as a mother wouldn't end when you go back to work.
Just to extend from Michaels comment:
I have to say from personal experience that when we moved house and my mum sent me into daycare at two and a half years old and went back to work, that was pretty traumatic for me as a kid.. Luckily she was in a position to take me to work 2 days a week (she worked at a preschool) but being left to in effect fend for myself after 2 years of devoted attention made it difficult, both for myself and for my Mum in trying to handle me once she came home of an afternoon. (I would be rather difficult)
Certainly if you have the opportunity as a married woman to go to work some days a week and possibly your husband look after the children some days, it will give you a bit of freedom, but remember when you have kids the whole concept of what you want goes out the window. You devote the next years to helping your child grow and develop, and to not fulfill that role could prove to be more trouble than its worth.
Children are fragile and precious, and not to be treated lightly. If you do have children, make sure you make choices that address their needs when they are greater needs over your own desire to work..
Preschool as Michael said is a critical time, that is the point at which your child really starts to develop individuality and you really need to be there to foster the talents your children may possess. To build relationships with your children lasts a lifetime, but to work an extra few years and not be developing that relationship.. is it worth it?
My thoughts: I don't think it is worth it.
Thanks guys I really appreciate your opinions on this matter. Hope to blog again soon.
LOL I think we all know you still exist.
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